Now available in paperback and as a downloadable ebook!
A practical guide to making your fantasies a reality...
I've worked as a kinky educator both locally and nationally for many years now. I never set out to be any kind of expert — nor do I claim to be — but I have learned a lot of stuff, and some of it the hard way. I remember how badly I wanted to experience dominance and submission, and how scared I was when I started down this path. I also remember all the generous people who helped to educate me in the ways of BDSM and kink.
It's time for me to give some of that back. If you are new to BDSM and looking for a practical, down-to-earth guide for making your fantasies a reality, this book is just the ticket. No, you won't find any sample contracts or diagrams of the 2,453 ways to present various parts of your anatomy to a potential master. Sorry about that!
What you will find is step-by-step advice that explains what we actually do — not what the bestsellers say we do — and why we do it. My book also explains the differences between dominants and masters, submissives and slaves, and tops and bottoms; the different dominant styles; the truth about "training" to be a submissive; how to find like-minded folks in your area; how to negotiate scenes and relationships; what to expect at your first dungeon party; why some people actually enjoy pain; and the warning signs to look out for when talking to potential partners.
Whether you want to live the BDSM lifestyle or you are just curious about how to incorporate elements of excitement and intimacy into your relationship, this book is full of useful information.
WHAT READERS ARE SAYING:
"Witty, fun and compartmentalized… real and practical advice on how to find balance and joy in the magick that is BDSM."
"This one hits it out of the park as a primer for people new to BDSM, whether sub or dom really. Kate speaks from experience and with a friendly big-sister tone, and doesn't lecture or dictate, but urges people to educate themselves and be sensible. Then she gives them some tools to do so, and encourages them to go learn more."
"As a person that has been in the lifestyle a very long time, I loved reading this book. I would place it on my recommended list to new people instantly. A lot of subjects are covered in a brief, easy-to-read format."
"This book is a MUST read for anyone who is thinking about exploring submission in a D/s relationship or for someone curious about all the 'hoopla' about BDSM. Kate lays it out simply and with humor. It clears up misconceptions about what is real and what is fantasy."