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Sexual Frustration & Hopeless Crushes at SouthEast LeatherFest 2014

6/24/2014

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PictureBoy River, Flossie and Optimus
I love working with KinkyCast, but this past weekend at SELF, it really got in the way of my sexual satisfaction. We were so busy talking to people, I never got around to having any sex all weekend. It hardly seems fair. I hope you people appreciate my sacrifice. 


We'll be putting together a HUGE podcast episode with all the SELF interviews, but in the meantime, I'll tell you about the fun we had!

The KC crew arrived Thursday night and as soon as the luggage was dropped in the room, LD Beast strapped on the mobile recording gear and we were off hunting our prey: interesting kinky folk!

One of the complications of the weekend was that we didn’t actually know everybody we wanted to talk to by sight. Heck, in this Internet age, I’ve got friends I’ve known for years that I’ve never actually seen face to face. And in the kinky world where many of us don’t put our real faces out there, I’ve got friends that I wouldn’t recognize if they walked up to me on the street, unless they showed me their boobs, tattoos, last week’s bruises or penises.

It didn’t help that the badges, while being quite large, featured names printed in 10-point type. (Seriously?) In order to read someone’s name, I had to lean in three inches from their chest, or, in many cases, their bosom. While I don’t necessarily mind this intimate proximity to strange breasts and pecs, some of the people I approached drew back in alarm at this invasion of their personal space.

It was even more awkward when, after leaning close enough to read the name tag, I realized that the person was not who I’d thought they were. Some of them must have thought I was nuts when I just smiled and said, “Nice to see you!”

Not to mention the people I scared the crap out of by abruptly squealing, “Oh, Lord Such-and-Such, I’ve been looking all over for you!”

I am still appalled at the way my ADHD kicked in during an interview with SouthEast Bootblack 2013 Madeline Sparkles, when I suddenly cried out, “Ponies!” when I spied a lovely latex-clad pony girl behind her. Madeline, if you are reading this, I’ll say it again: I am so sorry if I damaged your hearing. My only excuse is that I am easily distracted by shiny, sexy things. And you, too, were a shiny, sexy thing! Madeline was so adorable I wanted to take her home with me.

We’ve been doing KinkCast podcasts in the studio every week since February, but this was our first venture out in the world with a mobile setup. We popped our cherry with none other than Flossie Nadon, Ms. SELF 2013. She’s got a sweetheart of a smile, but there’s a devil in those eyes!

Maybe it was the lack of sex that caused me to form a few hopeless crushes like the one I developed on Optimus, Mr. SouthEast LeatherFest 2013, aka Sir Raymond Onyx. He’s a total doll and he knows it, LOL. Throughout our interview, Optimus gazed sexily into my eyes with his own big brown orbs, and completely charmed me. Damn, sometimes I really wish I had a penis. It’s not fair that I have to be just one gender all my life. If I were God, we’d all get to switch back and forth.

Then there was the lovely Luna, who performed on both nights of the contest. I missed her first act, but the second striptease more than made up for it. She stripped down to a body stocking and then proceeded to slowly rip it from her body in the most alluring way. SQEEE! The sound of ripping fabric, ohmigod, how hot is that?

When she was finally, blessedly naked, she produced a can of whipped cream and sprayed it all over herself. Did I mention she has the most tantalizingly warm, brown skin? It was like hot chocolate and whipped cream. VERY hot chocolate. Then she rubbed herself. Can you picture that? She rubbed herself all over with the whipped cream until her skin shown like burnished copper, all slick and oiled up….

I’m predominantly heterosexual, but if I had any chance at all with this lady, I’d be on my knees faster than you can say heteroflexible. Just saying.

I dunno, maybe it was all the leather that had my panties wet all weekend. Male, female, trans, het, gay, lesbian, leather, kinky, little, pony, pup….so many wonderful kinky people…..

More to come!



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Heading to Atlanta for SouthEast LeatherFest!

6/19/2014

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Well, I'm about to depart for Atlanta for a weekend of perverted fun and education. One of the things I'm most looking forward to is finally getting to meet personal hero Laura Antoniou, author of the legendary Marketplace series of BDSM erotica, among dozens of other things. She's also one of the most honest and insightful people in the kinky world, and funny, too. She edited a wonderful book called "Some Women" many years ago, one of the first non-fiction BDSM books I read early in my journey. "Some Women" is a collection of short essays by women in the Lifestyle -- gay, straight, top, bottom, bi, mistress, slave -- that gives newbies a glimpse of all the paths by which women come to this community, and all the paths they choose to take. If you can find a copy, I highly recommend it. 


If you at SELF… please look for the short busty redhead sticking a microphone in people's faces. I'll be with KinkyCast and we want to talk to you!





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I'm back on KinkyCast… and it's crazy fun!

6/14/2014

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You simply gotta check out the newest episode of KinkyCast. It's so much fun and so fabulous we had to split it into two parts.

The extended KinkyCast crew and assorted friends -- tops, bottoms, middles, doms, slaves, subs and switches -- get together in the dungeon to discuss questions from listeners.

Episode 20 A starts off talking about collars and what they mean, and then moved on to discussing when, if and how a kinky person comes out to their family and friends. It's very interesting to hear how different people from different backgrounds tackle the same questions. 

It really was a lot of fun to do this episode, and you can tell it in the podcast, LOL. At one point, Woody asks the Beast, "How exactly did we lose control of this?"

"When you let a bunch of sassy subs into the studio, that's how!" 

Somewhere along the line we got off on the tangent of munches and what is acceptable munch behavior, which is a very important subject for a lot of newbies who are still trying to figure out what a munch is in the first place!


We finish up with a debate on the meaning of community in BDSM.

In the second half, Episode 20 B, we move on to a discussion of how the internet has changed the kinky lifestyle. We discuss rituals and their meanings, as well as personal play styles.

It's like sitting in on an evening with friends, just talking about all the stuff that needs thinking about.

I hope you'll go to www.kinkycast.com and take a listen. It's free, it's easy and it's available now. 

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Chatting with Dr. Gloria Brame… Wow!

6/4/2014

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PictureDr. Gloria Brame
I still can't believe i got to spend an entire hour chatting with Dr. Gloria Brame, author of the definitive scholarly work on BDSM, Different Loving. She's a bona-fide pioneer of the kinky community, but she is just as down to earth and easy going as anybody could wish for! She also has a great sense of humor, and talking to her was a real treat.


Dr. Brame is a bona-fide pioneer of the kinky community, but she is just as down-to-earth and easy going as anybody could wish for! She also has a great sense of humor, and talking to her was a real treat.

Maybe you are new to kink, and don't recognize the name of this writer, board-certified sexologist and sex therapist with a Ph.D. in human sexuality. This is one of the downsides to the explosive growth in the kink community in this Internet age: we move so fast, we are losing our history. Most of us don't even know where we came from, or that we owe Dr. Brame a debt for helping to get us here.

So, no, Fifty Shades of Grey did not invent BDSM. Neither did Gloria Brame, but she was among the first to campaign against the stigma attached to BDSM and fetish sex. Different Loving rocked the world, and today it is used in classrooms to teach about human sexuality. 

Today, so many of us just jump on the computer and in a few clicks, we can find just about any fetish or kink you can possibly imagine -- and some that you never dreamed of. 

But for those of us who began in the dark ages, back when you started out all alone, thinking you were the only person in the world who ever got excited by a swat on your ass, the world was a much colder and scarier place. Nobody ever talked about this stuff, and your only hope of hooking up with a like-minded pervert was posting personal ads in swingers' magazines and sneaking around adult bookshops. If you had the courage, that is. A lot of us didn't. When I first became aware of what was then called "S&M," I honestly thought it was something the porn industry made up. Surely, I thought, real people didn't do this stuff… did they?

Then Dr. Brame came along and told us, yes, real people did this and it was okay. Having real research on who we are and what we do helped so many of us take those first steps in fulfilling our fantasies and feeling okay about it. 

As I told Dr. Brame on the podcast, Different Loving was the first non-fiction book on BDSM I ever read, so she's at least partly responsible for the happy, well-adjusted pervert I am today.  (There are a lot of men — and a few women — out there who owe her a thank-you!)

Since Different Loving, Dr. Brame has written several other books, including Come Hither, A Common-Sense Guide to Kinky Sex, The Truth about Sex, and Sex for Grown-ups. Her newest book, Naked Memory: Confessions of a Sexual Revolutionary, is just out and I can't wait to read her very personal story. Check out her website, www.gloriabrame.com, to find out more about her work.

Seriously, check out our conversation on www.kinkycast.com. It's a very enjoyable episode. I even got to ask her about the Swiss Cheese Pervert.

No, I'm not gonna explain that. You'll have to listen to the podcast!

Listening is easy and free…. you can listen anytime you want, while driving, folding the laundry, grocery shopping…. on your computer, or your phone or laptop or whatever mobile device you might be carrying around these days. 



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