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The Truth about Cocksucking

9/15/2012

14 Comments

 
Honestly, I have never read much romance or erotica. Not much romance, because I'm a cynic and simply cannot suspend the necessary disbelief to swallow most of it.  Not much erotica, because I'd rather have great sex than read about it. 

You wanna get me all hot and bothered, give me a good story. It can be romantic, it can be erotic, it can be about unicorns playing soccer on Mars -- but it has to have a GOOD STORY. 

And a good story, for me, is not one that follows a predictable formula, or strains credulity to the point of doing permanent damage to the psyche.

When I started writing "Red," I felt I should read some of the books out there already.

Now, I may not have written a lot of erotica, but I have a lifetime of experience with sex. A lot of sex. I've had more than my fair share of men, and probably your share, too. I was ruled off limits by an entire fraternity house at Georgia Tech, for Christ's sake, because I was started a fight between a brother and a pledge over who was gonna take me home one night. 

So, take my word for it — I know about sex. 

And I know that no one is a natural at blow jobs. 

I'm sorry, there's no amount of water-boarding in the world that can make me believe than an inexperienced virgin can immediately start deep-throating the massive penis of the hero (because Lord knows, the hero's meat rocket is ALWAYS massive) until his brain explodes in the most fabulous orgasm of his life. 

Yet I've read three books in the last month where the shy young girl steps out of a convent and falls (in an adorably klutzy manner) at the feet of  an obscenely gorgeous and sexy millionaire. He smiles at her with those dazzling blue/dark/green/grey eyes and suddenly, she's on her knees swallowing his sword like Belladonna on speed. 

This really pisses me off because, honestly, it's insulting to those of us who have spent a lifetime honing our oral skills.

It takes a least twenty or thirty blow jobs just to get comfortable with the one-eyed trouser snake in the first place. At least, this is true for the ladies; I'm sure gay men have a headstart because they have their own equipment to play with. They don't have to get past that urge to giggle just because it looks so funny in its flaccid  state. 

It takes a woman a little time just to learn to handle the darned thing with confidence. Not having one of our own, we aren't sure how firmly to grasp it. How much pressure is enough, or too little? Is handling the balls okay? Is the skin supposed to slide back and forth like that? Is there actually a bone in there? What if you accidentally break it?

And all that is before you even put it in your mouth. Cause be honest, in the beginning, you kept thinking, "He pees with this thing, and I'm putting it in my mouth." Ewww. You also have to get past the tastes and smells of sweaty balls and sometimes even -- brace yourself -- the faintest whiffs of doo-doo from the neighboring anus. 

Those sounds he's making -- do they mean he's enjoying himself or is he wincing in pain because you accidentally scraped him with your teeth?

(Never mind the fact that you only scraped him with your teeth because the idiot got excited and started pushing your head down on it like he was trying to unblock your sinuses with his penis.)

Then there's the whole issue of saliva and drool. You have to get past the idea that drooling is unattractive and accept that the more drooling and slurping you do, the better it feels to the recipient. 

An early learning experience of mine: drinking too much beer = cotton mouth = BAD BLOW JOB. 

There is a fine art to the rhythm of sucking and breathing at the same time, kinda like juggling. It takes some practice, as does not vomiting all over your date when the head of his cock hits your epiglottis.


To swallow, or not to swallow? And why does it taste that way?

Then there are the random elaborations. Like cum getting in your eye. It stings like a mother. 

The finger up the poop chute. Learning to file your nails and use some lube before trying that bright idea again. 

The true mark of a dedicated cocksucker? Being able to swallow your own vomit without missing a beat, even when snot is dripping from your nose and your eyes are runny and your knees are killing you, and you have cramp in your neck, and you're dizzy from lack of oxygen and you just want to scream, OH FOR GOD'S SAKE CUM ALREADY!!!!

But you can't, of course, because your momma told you never talk with your mouth full.

See? This is why I can't write romantic erotica. I've done too much of the real thing, in all it's sweaty, smelly, realistic glory. 

14 Comments
Carol
7/6/2013 06:27:06 pm

Not to speak of the fact that all these women behave as if they had a clit at the back of their throat.

I dislike oral sex, with a vengeance. Giving BJs does the very opposite of turning me on. It turns me so much off that someone would have to do without sex for quite a while. I have no problems with penes. I can sound them, ride them, tie them and make a nice package of the balls as well. I can whip and wrap and torture them. Edge and masturbate them. Sew them to the belly.

But fellate them? Gah! It gives me nothing, and I am a firm believer in sex acts having to be rewarding for both sides. And given how the vast majority of guys talk about women giving head, even if I were marginally inclined, I wouldn't do it on the principle that most men I met so far consider it a submissive female act their due (and yes, I met quite a few and I have an active sex-life).

It's easy enough for me, as I also don't much like cunnilingus, which is downright soporific to me. So there's really no tit for tat blackmail involved.

Getting back to erotic romances, I agree, but I'd like to add the fact that heroines these days get *always* written as wanting and enjoying BJs (which once you ask for honest opinions isn't really that widespread), just as they all have to adore being anally penetrated (I happen to like it, but again, it's definitely not something that many women like in reality).

I always end up asking myself what for I should enjoy reading about some ultra-beautiful super-sex-performer who gives the extra-rich hero the time of his gorgeous life. It's not something I find even marginally erotic.

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Kate Kinsey link
7/8/2013 11:06:09 am

Hi, Carol! Actually, I do enjoy giving blow jobs, but it took a while for me to achieve that mindset, lol. And even now, I think my enjoyment is partly a power trip, because you are never as in charge as you are with a man's dick in your mouth.

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Carol
7/15/2013 07:15:37 am

Oh, I wasn't saying anyone shouldn't do what they like doing. It's just that I for once would love to see dislikes expressed and respected.

As to feeling in charge, I don't feel in charge while doing something I do not enjoy or even hate. I also don't think anyone "has" to achieve a specific mindset, if they weren't already so inclined in the first place.

It's something of a peer pressure I notice more and more being applied to women.

That said, I hope you'll be writing another thriller?

Mar
11/16/2013 03:03:10 am

I love this post! So accurate! I generally enjoy giving blow jobs; it was something I'd actually always wanted to learn to do and excel at. But it took a few tries, like you said, to get comfortable with it, and there are some things (like the runny nose, the smells, and the varying tastes of semen) that will likely always be a bitch to deal with. But I find that when I sincerely care for the guy (read: when I'm with a great Dom), giving a blowjob will turn me on like nothing else.

Again, great post! You're really funny, and I enjoy your writing style!

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Cathy Nowell
12/7/2013 11:30:23 pm

VIRGIN TURNED COCKSUCKER

Well Kate, I just turned 62 this month and I was amused to stumble across this web page, and I figured why not, I have the urge to tell my long and detailed story I carefully composed from memory about my adventures with cocksucking and something else tied into it, and a very honest story at that. Back in 1977 I had gotten a job in a company in Paramus as a computer programmer and this really cute guy named Dennis was the operations manager of the computer room, one day I got up the nerve to ask him out for a drink at the end of the work day, so we went to this lounge called “The Wooden Indian” and got acquainted with each other, and before I know it I’m living with Dennis at his apt. in Prospect Park, NJ as his girlfriend.

I have to admit I came from a religious background and still was a virgin, but Dennis was kind about it and said he would “help me with it”. That’s when I got introduced to having sex and sucking a man’s dick. I thought it awkward at first, gobbling Dennis’s handsome salami but I really grew to like it. He showed me an oral sex film so I could learn the right maneuvers to drive him crazy. When he started shooting in my mouth I balked at first but eating sperm didn’t seem so bad as other women say and I had found out it contained a lot of protein, which doesn’t seem like a bad thing.

Then things started getting a little crazy. He had a thing for women’s feet and built foot stocks for me to put my bare feet in, which I thought was weird but I wanted to please him so I gave it a try, not realizing he was going to really tickle them and he nearly sent me thru the roof. Then he really floored me, he had a best friend named Danny Haines and he also had a feet fetish just like Dennis, I was asked if he could film Danny tickling my bare feet in the stocks and then film me as I sucked on the man’s dick.

I was shocked to hear him ask this of me, and at first had anger inside at such a request, but something came over me. I thought my own boyfriend is giving me permission to suck another man’s dick, why should I turn it down? If he wants a real cocksucker for a girlfriend, then give it to him! I must confess, since Dennis had told me this friend of his had a huge dick, even though I care for Dennis very much, I wanted to eat this man alive.

The day came and Dennis had me put my bare feet in stocks waiting for his friend to arrive and when he did within minutes after him smoking a joint he proceded to come into the spare room with me on the floor in bra and panties and bare feet in stocks and Mr. Daniel went to work on my feet immediately. It was pure torture. I yelled and cackled my head off as Dennis filmed it, not caring that this man was working me over. I pleaded with him to stop and I agreed to suck his boner if he stopped. Next thing I knew I was leaning over his 10 inch Johnson and attacked it like a cannibal. Now your turn to squirm, Dennis. I had him moaning & yelling as I treated his huge dick like a delicious stick of pepperoni.

Dennis was filming on his video camera and started gasping “OH CATHY, HOW COULD YOU!” I replied “oh buster, you asked for it” Daniel continued singing out until he started shooting in my mouth and all over my face, getting it in my hair also. I don’t know where that tape is today but I’m sure I entertained lots of men with it.
Dennis is gone but I’ll never forget how he turned me from virgin to cocksucker.

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Sissy Danella
6/3/2016 02:17:30 am

Hi Kate,
I just happened across your site tonight and loved this story. Am I allowed to write how my girlfriend is turning me into a cocksucker here? If so I will be glad to share. Hope to hear from you soon.
Respectfully,

Danella

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Dennis
10/1/2016 08:30:48 am

It seemed that every woman I went out with or married was a champion cocksucker and 2 of them blew my best friend and one had a past doing adult theater blowjob films. I never thought of it as distasteful to women as very few of them did not enjoy being boner gobblers.

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Alison smith link
11/9/2016 09:30:30 am

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Alison smith link
11/9/2016 09:27:32 am

I can't get enough cock in me

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Edward Furr
10/4/2017 04:41:40 am

Im a cocksucker and proud

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Anonymous
7/11/2019 02:29:12 pm

God is a filthy cocksucker that swallows.

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Charle
8/26/2019 07:57:07 am

I sucked my first cock when I was 14 years old

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Anonymous
12/2/2019 05:03:18 am

God is a filthy disgusting low life scumbag.

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Anonymous
9/29/2020 07:38:00 am

Even Satan made God suck his cock and swallow as well.

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