it's not the person writing the letter than makes me angry. No, it's the situation or person that prompted them to write. They are asking for advice because some idiot/poser/asshole has told them lies, or made them ridiculous promises, or just plain bamboozled them with outrageous claims about their experience, their skill, their long list of collared slaves who allow them to do all kinds of terrible things to them without complaint.
One of the latest: a woman who asked about a so-called dominant who sent her videos he'd (supposedly) made of his other "slaves."
Now, I don't know if these videos were actually his. But what concerns me is that the woman who contacted me said the videos not only showed the women's faces but had their NAMES on them as well.
A lot of people like to make videos and take photos of their escapades. Nothing wrong with that. We've all been warned a thousand times by now how even a single photo can take on a life of its own, and how it can circulate around and around the vast spaces of the Internet from now until the end of time...
Think long and hard about who you trust to protect those intensely intimate photos and videos of you.
It's one thing to trust a commited partner -- though believe me, I've seen marriages turn into bitter shit-fests where photos and videos suddenly became ammunition in bloody warfare -- but in the kink community, a lot of people rush into things with people they hardly know. Newbies get talked into things that seem like a good idea at the time, or they don't have the confidence to say no to.
Think carefully before you allow someone to photograph or video you. Otherwise I may be getting a letter from someone else who just got YOUR photo/video from the so-called dominant who's trying to recruit them for his next feature film.