I have just read your book 'How to be..' and I want to thank you for making me realize I was about to make a very bad choice, simply out of my naivety. Looking at it now I can't believe what I was about to do! I am a total newbie, but made contact with a Dom on the Internet, just randomly. He was insightful but very pushy and was strongly saying we should meet. He knew I was totally inexperienced. I was about to go alone, to his house, to be put in bondage and play. I was so intoxicated with the idea of my fantasy becoming reality that I just turned off my brain! I was about half way through your book when it just clicked back on. I did not want this at all! Thank you for such good, straight-forward advice. It's been invaluable. I'm off to chat to some other newbie subs, make some friends and attend some munches (when I get up the courage). EVENTUALLY, I might be ready to meet some people to play with. I've slowed it the fuck down. Thank you.